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Tuesday, March 22, 2011

I have touchy subjects, too.

Blogging is an interesting thing.

You read about people, daily, who put their lives out there for whoever is reading. Sometimes, those people reading never show their 'face' (ie: never comment, email, etc). They lurk. 

They know a ton about your life. You don't know most of them, at all.

You write.You share. 

You continue to share things that you want. Its Your Blog, anyway, right?

Right.

I never realized that what I wrote would be of any interest to people. Or that some of you would stop by daily. Or that you'd care about the silly antics that is my life. Or hear about my miscarriage. Or watch my pregnant belly grow. Or watch me become a mom. Or that you'd like seeing the photographs I take of my daughter. (Okay, hold up. Who wouldn't want to see adorable pics? I digress.) Or watch her grow up. Or..or...you get it.

But, really.

Blogging is a weird thing on one hand, and a really, really great thing on another. I obviously love it.

You know a lot about me. Well, you know a lot about what I choose to write about, that is. Of course I don't write about everything, and out of respect I choose not to write about certain things regarding my family, my marriage, or other things we choose to keep personal.

You dig?

You feel like you know me. Some of you? I feel like I know, too. But, most of you? I don't really know.

When I write about something & hit publish it means I'm ready, willing and fully comfortable sharing with the proverbial 'world'. When I don't write about something for a while, or don't update on a particular thing? The usual reason is not because I forgot. It's because I'm not ready to talk about it. Heck, maybe I never will write about it. And that? Is okay.

You see, that's the thing. It's my right what I put out here. Just like its your right to do the same in your little space on the internet. I'm really open, true. But some things are touchy subjects even for me.

I think that sometimes, in the whole Art of Blogging, we forget about relationship. Relationship is between two people, a friendship, a bond, you've both invested & shared into each others lives in some way. 

And with relationship? Comes privilege to know certain things about the other...desires, hopes, fears, dreams, etc. 

Sometimes, just sometimes I feel like blogging takes that relationship aspect out of things. It can also be very one-sided. 

Just remember, although I'm a person who writes almost daily 'online', I'm still a human. With feelings, emotions & every day real life mom-struggles.

And sometimes? Sometimes? I just don't wanna talk about it.

39 comments:

  1. A to the Men!

    It couldn't have been said better.

    It is your space, your life, your business.

    Hugs and fist bumps, my friend. :)

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  2. Couldn't have said it better, Katie. :)

    ps- kudos on the vlog. I can't quite convince myself to try it yet. I get weird when I Skype with the fiance, so who knows what crazy mess would end up in/on a vlog.

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  3. First off I love the blog re-design!

    Totally true but I have loved the real life, in person interactions I have had through blogging. I guess it limits you to local bloggers but there are a handful of non-local bloggers who I feel like I "know" and "know" me well. People just have to understand that everyone has a different level of privacy and comfort level with sharing private things, this is even the case with IRL friends.

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  4. I'm all about doing things the way you want to. I still think of mine as a journal and not a blog. As long as your still blogging for yourself, you've got nothing to worry about. Much love!

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  5. i dont always respond in comments but i enjoy reading knowing another new mom went through what i am venturing into. it's very reassuring and i thank you for putting what you have chosen to put out there out there :)

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  6. You my friend, can get an Amen to that!! I totally agree with everything you said. There is a lot I want to talk about and a lot I dont. SO i totally get it. Go on with your bad self!!

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  7. I'm another thar doesn't always respond. I also don't blog on a daily basis, but I read blogs on a daily basis. (Thank you i-phone!) I really enjoy reading about your life & experiences. Reading your blog (& seeing adorable pics) brings joy to my life each day. So, thank you for sharing.
    P.S. Feel free to visit & check out some pics of my new little cutie pie!

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  8. So true.

    I've been blogging for almost 5 years, so I've gotten to the point now that I have a rhythm, and strong boundaries, and don't cross them. (Not that you'd know it by my writing) But sometimes people forget that. That it's not a place on the internet, it's your actual life.

    Hugs, lady. And amen.

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  9. What I love about your blog is that you are so true and honest. Do not worry about others. You are the one who matters not other silly people and their silly opinions.

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  10. Beautifully said! I agree with every one of these comments...it is your actual life! Well said by all.

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  11. I couldnt agree more.. and you are super open and you should be able to hide/keep or just not talk about some things.. this is your little spot and its a place for you to feel free and honest and ok about what you write!

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  12. Totally understandable. FYI, I've been reading your blog probably twice a week for at least a year, easily, but I've probably only commented once or twice.

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  13. Ugh, just had a super long comment ready to go and my phone froze....grrrr

    Basically though, I agree with everything you just said. Its YOUR blog and you chose what to put on here...and what NOT to put on here.

    I'm also glad I got to "know" you through here...you've impacted my life in many positive ways :) love you friend.

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  14. You are as raw and honest as they come and that’s what I LOVE most about you and keeps me reading your blog!!!!!! Very well said!!!

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  15. I totally get it. I've always tried to be pretty protective about some things, but it's hard! For me, it's been hard to walk that line between sharing more personal info (like our address) with two or three people that I've "known" online for years. But then when other people that I don't "know" as well ask questions about our personal life (i.e. "Can I send you something?") I struggle--because I *want* to be nice and social and I totally appreciate the thought. On the other hand, I don't REALLY know them at all. It's such a weird conundrum!

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  17. Yeah, I think sometimes people view it like reality tv. It's entertaining to peek into someone' else's life, yet they forget that there's an actual person behind the writing and images. There are definitely limits, and that's totally okay.
    Loved this.

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  18. I totally understand! I have had this feeling a lot lately.

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  19. There are so many things that I don't blog about and don't feel like sharing with the world wide web. It's ok to keep things to yourself and precious and if anyone expects you to share your whole life needs to get more of a life for themselves.
    I enjoy reading what you do put out there
    Have a great day Katie!

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  20. Well said!

    P.S. I'm a new follower!

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  21. I totally get that. Last year I stopped blogging for a long time because of a sensitive subject. We were trying to get pregnant and were not able to, and I was not ready to share that with the world and especially with people who I actually know in real life. But at the same time, that was all I could think of, which only meant that I had to step away from blogging for a while.
    Whatever you are going through right now (if you are) I hope it passes soon :-)

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  22. Very well said. Blogging IS a really weird thing, and a lot of people don't get it. Most of the time I don't talk about it with my IRL friends and lately that has been really bothering me. What I don't understand is they can meet guys off the internet through dating sites but it's weird that I have friends online? Really? Because that makes no sense.

    I love reading your blog, I don't comment 100% of the time and I am not a mom (yet) but I love reading what you're going through, love seeing the adorable pictures you post of Emeline and your family and looking forward to having all of that someday too! :)

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  23. Hi there! I'm a new reader and just wanted to say kudos to you for living your life the way YOU want, writing about what you want, and sharing what you want. Sometimes people have a difficult time drawing boundaries online but at the end of the day, we are all human and these are our real lives, not just entertainment for others.

    xox.

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  24. I really enjoyed this post!
    Thank you for sharing yourself - true and real :)

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  25. I enjoyed reading this! Thank you for sharing your thoughts! I love reading your blog!

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  26. Great point. My grandmother passed away recently and I almost felt guilty for not posting about it on my blog. But then I thought, it's no one else's business.

    Blogging is certainly a different sort of creature . . .

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  27. Feel free to talk about whatever you want Momma!!! I <3 <3 <3 reading your blogs anyway!!! LoL!!!

    Of course, you personal life...hello, is that! PERSONAL!

    You business is your business...and whomever would WANT you to share those kinds of things is more of a stalker then a "fellow blog lover" Eek!!! 0_0

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  28. Yes, blogging is a strange thing. I had to shut down my original blog because it used real names and just too many details. My blog now is REAL but I don't use real names or many details. Because of that, I feel like I can be more comfortable to share and be myself.

    I loooove you blog. I don't comment very often but I just wanted to let you know that I read it. And love it :)

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  29. So so true. No idea if this has anything to do with your post, but I often wonder about people who clearly didn't get the memo on "if you don't have anything nice/constructive to say, stay quiet...especially if you don't know the person IRL and they weren't seeking opinions!"

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  30. I totally agree! It's your blog, you put what you want in it! That's what I totally believe too!

    Nice post :)

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  31. I think it takes a great amount of courage to blog the way you do. I don't have it in me to be so open. I'm fine with strangers, it's people I know seeing my thoughts that really gets to me. I hope no one stepped on your toes so much that you discontinue your honest approach.

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  32. Yep.

    I rarely post about B, or at least our marriage.

    I am still kinda dying to know what brought on this post!

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  33. You are a honest as they come and that is what keeps me reading your blog... and yes I do find myself checking if you have a new blog :-)

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  34. I like this post a lot. A lot of times people assume just because we blog, that we're a complete open book. Well, usually I am. But for instance, my hubs is fiercely private so most info about him stays off the blog. I've been asked before why I don't tell more about him.. simply, it's not his blog and it's his choice what I put out there. I like to share my story, but I also really like to keep some things for just us. Sometimes people just don't get that...

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  35. So so true. Love this. And the relationships are so important and just make blogging that much more. I love the realtionships I have with bloggers so much... and then there is the creepy girl who keeps finding new ways of emailing me begging me to tell her what city I'm moving to.

    I get you on this. 110%.

    :)

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  36. Ok....two comments on the same post. You really got me thinking. There were blogs that I read pretty regularly, but was not a follower of. I rarely commented on blogs I read, even ones I officially followed. I guess I never really commented because I figured the author wouldn't really care what I thought. Because of this post, I have since changed my mind. I care about what people think about my blog, (a teeny tiny blog that I don't post on regularly)so I'm sure others would appreciate my feedback as well. Anyway, I am going to make the effort to comment more frequently, especially when I really like something that a person says. (Who doesn't like to be complimented?) Also, I have become a follower of the blogs that I lurked instead of just being a creeper. (And I'll continue to become a follower if I find other blogs I enjoy.) Thanks for opening my eyes and helping me to realize. Obviously the blogs I read make me happy, so I should let the author know that they bring a little joy to my heart. So, Katie, thank you! <3

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  37. I think we all understand and feel this way too. It is crazy to think about who is reading sometimes, I forget that a lot of people who don't comment ARE reading my blog regularly. And I also agree that some topics are better left alone...

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