It is oh so rare for me to talk about blogging on my blog. But I'm going to do it today. These thoughts have been swirling around in my brain for a bit, and it's always just easier to get them out instead of let them sit up there occupying valuable space.
I wish we could all be original. I realize that it's almost physically impossible to not be impacted somewhat by other blogs or writers. But, be unique to who you are.
Don't steal people's writing styles just because. It's okay to admire someone's writing, I do that. But, write from the person and perspective who you are. That is what makes blogging so awesome. It's your voice. Find it.
Also? Nobody likes a copycat. I have one, heck, maybe you have one, too. But, come on? None of us were born yesterday.These things are easy to piece together (and I have a lot of awesome friends watching out for me & vice versa). So if you copy me? My friends? You steal our post ideas, or even our aspects of our blog design? We see it. Besides it being a million other things I won't say right now, it's also not very nice.
And that whole line about imitation being the highest form of flattery? It sounds like something my mom (hi mom! love you!) would've told me in 5th grade when all the girls in class bought the same scrunchie from Limited Too as me. But? Imitation is just that...imitation. It really isn't that flattering. Especially when people steal without linking back to you as the source of inspiration, ideas, etc. That's crossing all sorts of etiquette in blog world, and it kind of bums me out, too.
Please, for the love of all things that are good and holy---write because you want to. Not because you feel some undo pressure, or to maintain some status, or whatever.
I've gotten emails before point-blank asking me "how to get followers". I wouldn't know the answer to that. First of all? I'm just a speck in this blog-world like everyone else. Secondly? I didn't go and "get" anyone, nor force them to come read this 'lil blog of mine.
You know what my answer is? Love to write, first. Love to document. Or whatever the purpose of your own blog is. Do it with care, and because you want to and like to. People will see that and choose for themselves if they want to follow along for the ride. Like I've mentioned lots and lots of times...I've blogged now for almost 11 years (first livejournal, then blogger), with more than half the time having no one but my sisters & mom reading. You can't take things too personally on the internet. This is a lesson I am still in the process of learning.
If your friend jumped off a bridge, would you, too?
Don't answer that. But, seriously.
Guess what? As humans, we have choices. We don't have to follow along, and that's OKAY. For a small (and silly) example, I'm not a fan of the southern smocked dresses/rompers, for girls or boys. It's personal for me. It's my opinion, and guess what? That's okay. We're allowed to have our own opinions, and I don't have to dress my kid in them. I'm also told it's a southern thing and it's to be expected that I don't particularly care for them. Maybe that's true.
But, either way? Just because I don't like them (and think some of the pink ones on boys is a little...odd), I'm not going to beat other people up over it. That's just silly. And wrong. And even in a small way? A form of bullying, and I'm not cool with that.
If you don't like something someone says, or does, or writes on their blog, it's okay to disagree. But? Do it respectfully. It also takes no effort just to click the little X to leave, too.
And lastly? If you consider yourself a blogger, you should know by now that you NEED to have an email address attached to your profile. If not? No one can respond to your comments.
For instance, if you ask me a question? I would love to just reply to you via the comment in my email, but if it says "noreply@blogger blah blah"? It makes the task about 19302903x harder. And chances are, after chasing around my toddler, and juggling working from home, I just won't jump through the hoops to do it.
So, make it easy on all of us okay? Go to your dashboard. Next to your profile picture, click "edit profile", add an email address, and then click "Show my email address".
Done and done. I know I speak on behalf of most bloggers out there on this one. Oh, and word verification? Turn that off, too. Talk about annoying. Typing words like Jgeragah, and Blermish 20x a day will send you (me) into a sea of disillusion. Help a sister out.
Phew. Now that that's out there.
Happy Wednesday....and happy blogging :)