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Wednesday, July 13, 2011

Who leaves first, the chicken or the egg? Uh, wait.

Every weekday morning, a showered, dressed-for-work husband leans over and kisses me goodbye. At which point I normally fumble out the words "I love you", with one-eye take a peak at the monitor (praying she's still sleeping blissfully), and then turn over to catch a few more minutes of sleep.

I hate the morning. No matter what I do, I just cannot find myself to be a morning person. Coffee helps, but only a little. 

Up until Emeline was born and I was teaching--I was always the first person out of the house. Meaning, between Declan and I, I was the first one up in the mornings. I was the first one showered and dressed. I was the one who took the dog out (since he was begging.to.pee.), and I was the one who had to lean over and kiss a sleeping-husband while fully dressed for work. 

I'm not gonna lie. I HATED IT. Since I wasn't a morning person, I despised having to be up and at 'em before him. I was secretly jealous that he could linger in bed longer than I could. I wanted that to be me.

One of the many upsides to staying home with my daughter was my new ability to take-it-easy in the mornings. Granted, for the first 11 months of her life, I was up throughout the night about a billion times. But, still. 

I got to stay in bed in the morning (while baby snoozed), while Declan shuffled off to work. 

I was thinking about this the other day. How much I love not being the first one out of the house like I used to be. About how glad I am that he's the one saying goodbye to ME in the mornings. And that he's the one who takes the dog out, and does the morning around-the-house stuff like make coffee. And not vice-versa. 

Honestly? I even preferred days where Declan and I would leave the house at the same time. Which would happen every once in a while when I went in at a normal time, and let's just say, he had to go in extra early. But knowing I was leaving the house with a snoozing husband most days just didn't work for me (har-har). 

So I'm wondering--what's it like at your house? Who leaves first? Do you prefer being up first, last, or to sleep to oblivion? No. Really. And yes, these are the things I lie awake thinking about at night. I'm genuinely curious, and weird like that.

*disclaimer (ha): Declan eats his breakfast at work, and has his lunch already there for the entire week--so it's not like I'm being a neglectful wife or anything. Just felt I should, ahem...clarify :)

45 comments:

  1. I leave last, which I love. Hubs is a teacher so he leaves first then I wrangle the toddler to school and am off to work myself. Though hubs is on summer break right now, so he never leaves. I hate him just a little. :)

    Julie
    ilikebeerandbabies.blogspot.com

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  2. I too am lucky to stay home, so it's always him that leaves first. I do and have gotten up to make his lunch or any special breakfast requests (which is NOT often). The baby is usually up before either of us, so I'll bring her into bed with us. There have been a handful of times where I haven't gotten up due to being up all night or just out of exhaustion if the little one is sleeping too, but I feel bad and make an effort since afterall I can go lay down on the couch or back up to bed once he leaves. The baby is pretty good about falling back asleep between 9-10 in the morning so I'll nap with her.

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  3. I am SOOO not a morning person either. My hubs works at home and he's always the first one up (and thank goodness because I need coffee ASAP and he makes a mean cup). Then once those red lights start going on the monitor, it's my turn to get up. Ugghh!

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  4. When I worked, I still left an hour after Jeff. Now, THANKFULLY, I don't have to go anywhere!

    He gets up at 5 and I get up when I hear the shower shut off. I make coffee, pack his lunch, make his breakfast, and check e-mail. I'm totes a morning person, though, so if I don't start my day early? I feel like I wasted it. Not gonna lie, tho, there are days when I want to stay in bed until someone brings me breakfast and offers to clean the house and nanny Katherine :)

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  5. My husband leaves for work at 5:45am. He used to come in and say goodbye that always woke me up just enough so that I couldn't fall back asleep. Now I don't even hear him leave and I wake up alone every morning but Sunday. I love Sundays and wish I had more days where my husband was home when I woke up. That said... I'm glad I don't have to wake up when he does!

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  6. During the school year (I teach) I am always up before hubby and it drove me nuts to leave him there lying in bed while I headed out (I'm so not a morning person either). Now that it's summer hubby goes to work and I get to sleep in for an extra hour before heading off to my summer job. It is AMAZING how much better I feel with that extra hour, so I am NOT looking forward to the fall!

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  7. Well I stay home with Alexa so Peter is almost always the first one up. If Alexa wakes before his alarm goes off, he goes and plays with her and lets me sleep till he needs to start getting ready *great dad*!

    When we were both worker bees I was almost always up and gone before he got out of bed. On days he went into work early we left around the same time. I don't mind waking up early when I'm sans baby. I'm not a fan of the morning, but I'm highly functional for hating early hours. I basically act on autopilot until about 10am anyway ;D

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  8. J is in construction, which generally means very early hours. It's not uncommon for him to be at work by 5ish. However, right now they're starting at 7, so we're trying to get (back) in the habit of getting up together before he has to go to work to exercise together...it makes a BIG difference in the rest of the day for us!

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  9. During the school year we leave at the same time. I get up first, get myself ready then get our daughter ready as my husband showers. Then we are all out the door. He drops off and picks up our daughter from Grandma's everyday. I agree, it is nice to leave at the same time! Both alert, awake and ready for the day! During the summer I am much like you. He peeks his head in the door says goodbye and love you and I roll over and pray that the little one gives me at least one more hour of sleep! :) I am ok in the morning no matter what time I am up but I do love sleeping a little longer during the summer!

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  10. During the school year I leave first, heck he is still in bed when I leave! But during the summer he leaves. I am normally up when he leave (his alarm starts going off at 6 and he snoozes til 730!) I am a morning person so that is fine with me. I feel like I get more done when I am up early.

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  11. The hubs and I set our alarm for the exact same time (6:00) b/c we usually leave the house within 5 to 10 minutes of each other. But I am NOT a morning person either and I am usually the one hitting the snooze button about 3 times... hubs on the other hand might as well be skipping around the house whistling a show tune because he so IS a morning person... that makes me even more grumpy :)

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  12. I'm a morning person for sure! Almost annoyingly so. I'd much rather get up and get going then sleep in. I also have a longer commute, so even though Adam and I have the same work schedule, I always leave first. It's a rare day that when I'm headed out the door he's still sleeping.

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  13. Once I get my first cup of coffee, I am a decent morning person. Since my husband and I both teach (and at the same school,) we leave either at the same time or together in the morning HOWEVER, I am very lucky in that he is up before me, has his breakfast, makes the coffee and our lunches and does his "routine" while I sleep 10 more minutes and shower. It works for us and better yet ... the SUMMER together!

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  14. lol, I like your disclaimer, like you should get his breakfast and lunch ready? pshhhht. My hubby and I are both morning people, and we both work the same hours (7a-4p), so we get up at the same time (5a) and leave the house at the same time(6:30), and come home at the same time. I'm about to start a new job that will push my work schedule back to 8-5, but I'll be taking Cooper to daycare, so I'll be leaving about 30 minutes later starting next week.

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  15. 90% of the time I am single mommimg it in the morning.. and I hate it. I term it the rat race. Adam either works at 6 or 7 each morning ( on a rare occasion 8) and his alarm goes off and him getting ready always wakes me.. so I am pretty much up when he is. Bleh. Thank you for the reminder that in a month the whole rat race begins again!

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  16. I am the exact same way! I can be enticed back to bed so easily it's not even funny. I have no will power. Bf and I are out the door at the same time since we commute into the city together, but days he gets to work from home? WOW is there jealousy. I hate leaving a big sleepy cute guy in bed when I could be snuggled in there. It sucks!

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  17. When my husband was teaching he was always up and out the door first, but I usually got up during that time to get ready for school. This last year has been back and forth. Sometimes he's out the door first and sometimes it is me depending on his class schedule. Now what gets me is that he's home before I am. I always liked being home first for just a little time alone!

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  18. I'm on Summer break now and I love that I can stay in bed longer. Hadley wakes up around 7:00-7:30 but I just scoop her up and we cuddle in bed and most days she goes back to sleep until 8:30...I love it!

    During the school year my husband and I usually get up at the same time about 6:30...ewe...I'm not a morning person either.

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  19. You are like me. I hate waking up. My husband kisses me goodbye and half the time, I feel like I'm still sleeping at that moment. I fall back asleep for a few more hours until the girls wake me up. Then, we very slooooowly start our day - with a cup of coffee for me. ;)

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  20. I hate waking up. Dispise it but yet I am ususally the first one awake. I am a freak about the house looking a certain way so usually the mornings is when I get stuff all settled and back to normal, but my fiance is the first one out of the house each morning. I like that I can get a lot done before work in the morning that way I don't have to worry about it after work but still...hate waking up!!!

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  21. You're a much better woman than me, because I let Josh fend for himself - breakfast, lunch & dinner 90% of the time! But, I'm the same way when it comes to getting up. I CANNOT get out of bed with a smile on my face if I'm the first up. I hate it! I love the mornings Josh has to be at work at 8 & I don't have to be there until 9. I'm with you on that one!

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  22. It drives me crazy when Matt sleeps in on the weekends! So I always take K in there and say "lets wake daddy up to play!" LOL He leaves for work at 4:45 then comes home at 5 so I can't really complain. I get to sleep in until 6-630 and I love it. K doesnt wake up until 730 so it gives me plenty of time for coffee, make lunches, breakfast, bag, and read my devotional by myself.

    That was probably way more detailed than it needed to be! haha!!

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  23. Hubs leaves first...he works about 45 min. away so he leaves at 6am..which means I am just getting out of the shower at that time. Because he leaves so early, dog and baby duty are all up to me. By the time i get to work (at 7) I feel like I have put in a full day already!

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  24. As of right now, I am a stay at home mom/domestic Goddess (hahaha!!) Kevin gets up and gets himself ready, makes his breakfast packs up his lunch. But if he asks me to make him breakfast I will. He just prefers to do it himself. I however love to sleep, Livvy usually wakes up between 9:30 and 10 and I usually get up with her about 15-20 minutes afterwards. She enjoys her time to herself to wake up and talk or sing to herself and I enjoy a little quiet time to myself before the day starts.
    Now, come August (OH MY GAHH!) I will no longer be a stay at home mom (CRY!!) I will start my student teaching and will be up with the hubs trying to get everyone ready to go for the day. I am a nervous wreck!

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  25. HA! I love your disclaimer at the end! Um, typically everybody in the house wakes up at 7, I nurse Zoe in bed while Brad gets ready for work. Now that we have to be at the gym by 8:30 I have to get up and going earlier. Before I would just lay in bed with Zoe for like an hour. I am SO not a morning person. I can do it...but I prefer not to.

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  26. I am a horrible morning person! I hate waking up too! Jesse wakes up first since I stay home :) He's usually up and gone for an hour or so before Jaxon and I get up and start our day.

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  27. My husband works nights so he leaves in the PM when me & kiddos are still awake. He gets home in the morning then I leave for work!.. on the days I work. Part time job & full time momma! :-)

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  28. I 'creep' out of the house at around 430 in the morning since the major parts of my job are over by 8am. Rudy stays in bed another half an hour and then gets Rowen up at around 530 and gets him ready for the day! The last thing I do before I leave is go in the nursery and kiss my baby on the forehead and then go back in my room and do the same to my sleeping puppies, and husband!

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  29. Yes, I am jealous you get to snooze in bed for a bit longer. My husband works from home at times and while off running out the door he is still in bed. I get so annoyed but its only because im jealous :)

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  31. I am not a morning person, never have been, but I can be functional before 10 if I have coffee. Hubby is up at 3am and to work by 4am (at that time of day it only takes him about 15mins to get there) so if I'm ever up before him it's probably because I never went to bed in the first place!

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  32. During the school year, I finally told B that he HAD to change his schedule and go in later because getting both boys out the door on time, alone was something that required a superhero cape and boots. I just couldn't do it. Now, mornings are leisurely for both of us and we are both dreading me going back to work in about a month.

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  33. Our schedules are anything but typical. M-Th I am up between 8-830 and out the door w/my dogs by 845. M-Wed Brandon is up & out of the door @ the same time as I am. Thursdays & Fridays he works at noon. Fridays, I work at 5pm and am not home until... the latest 3am. Saturdays are late mornings for me 99% of the time. And by late, I mean noon! Which sucks because then I'm at work again at 5pm. However, it is usually a short shift & I'm home by midnight. Well, at least half of the time. Typically he has weekends off so he's up long before me, but even if he works/closes with me he's up before I am. We both work way too much right now but it's what we 'have to do' or at least we think so! ;) I have had jobs before where I started at the butt crack (330a) but the schedule wasn't 100% the same week to week so I don't remember hating it as much.

    So, that was a really long story... ha! But in a nutshell, I have NEVER been a morning person. My mom faught to get me up for school then I would fall asleep laying down in the shower & she'd beat on the door to wake me up! Brandon learned quickly not to say much to me while I'm sleeping or shortly after I've woken up... it's not pretty. I have a serious motivation issue on the morning/afternoons that I am home before work. I just can't resist the couch or crawling back into bed! It's awful! On the other hand? I'm a great night person! 99% of my deep cleaning, baking, projects & the like are done after 9pm! Most of this time is my alone time as B sacks out pretty early... definitely before 11!

    So, this one time? When I had a job that started before him & left while he was sleeping? I hated my life. For reals. This is what I am most afraid for when we have a baby... oh.my.gosh.I.may.die.

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  34. During the school year, I wake up about a half hour before he does...and it drives me nuts! He wakes up at the last possible minute, therefore, not helping get the baby ready for the sitter at all!

    Now during the summer, I get to sleep in and get a groggy "I love you" kiss in the morning. I know he hates that he has to go to work and I get to stay home. I hope September 1 takes foreverrr to get here!

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  35. I really want to be a morning person! When I get into the habit I feel soo much more energized and productive. It never lasts for more than maybe a week though. When I lived with my ex-boyfriend, I had to be at work by 7 am, in an area where there was no parking, which meant I took the bus from the totally opposite side of the city. I had to be out of my house by 5:45 at the latest. Meanwhile, the boyfriend, who worked for a limo company, typically didn't have to be anywhere until at least noon. I was SO jealous!

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  37. Me too! I hate being the first to leave! Nine times out of ten I leave first. Mostly that's Monday through Friday, unless my husband is opening (i.e. he has to be AT work at 4:30 AM), but sometimes on the weekends he goes in in the morning and it's nice to still be the same way snoozing!

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  38. I am so with you - i am NOT a morning person at ALL. Haha. It's gotten better over the years, but mostly? I just hate it.

    My husband has to be at work at 7:30 & I have to be at work for 8:00. He gets up the minute the alarm rings, takes care of taking the dog out & feeding him, makes coffee, then jumps in the shower. I am usually just getting out of the shower when he is leaving (he works farther away than i do).

    But every 4 weeks, he works 4 10 hour days. During those weeks, i'm definitely asleep when he leaves! He'll come tell me bye & i go right back to sleep. Except, of course, on Friday when he's off. He doesn't stay in bed, though. He's a morning person! He gets up & makes me coffee. But i still hate that he gets to stay home & i don't! I don't know if it's worth those 10-hour days though! Haha.

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  39. You know I am NOT a morning person!! Usually the hubs leaves at the crack of dawn while BG and I sleep til about 9 easy. Man.. love that. Lately I've had to get her and I out before he even wakes up since he's been going in late. I HATE that! I usually just glare daggers at him sleeping in the bed!!!

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  40. I was definitely like you, out of the door first, when teaching, and I loved it! I seemed to have been a morning person then. These days, I totally enjoy when my husband is really quiet and the baby sleeps in a bit. Those extra minutes are priceless! I probably get more sleep now than I did then, but I can never get enough! Happy sleeping!

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  41. I wish I was the one who got to sleep in and leave later. But, if Husband doesn't have an early morning law class, then I'm stuck being the first up in the morning. And boy do I hate leaving him sleeping while I have to go to work!

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  42. I don't blame you. I like staying in my cozy bed too, although with Olivia that doesn't happen as much anymore ~ hehe.

    K and I leave together in the morning. He drops me off at the train station, and picks me up in the evening.

    I prefer being the last one to bed. After Olivia and K go to bed I indulge in Y&R (yes the soap) and I catch up on all of the blogs I read. Yes I deprive myself sleep to blog. It's my alone time in our quiet home where no one needs me for anything.

    I also wanted to say thank you for posting about your weight loss. You and Chris from the blog "Just Beachy" have inspired me to return to weight watcher / my fitness pal app on my iphone and loose some much needed weight. In just 6 days I have lost 4 lbs. I evaluated what I was eating before and I was shocked to learn that my normal calorie intake is 1200 and I was well over 2300 a day - YIKES! Thanks again for the inspiration to take care of myself.

    Take care,
    Lisa

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  43. It used to be getting up at 5:15am for work everyday and it was miserable! I am not a morning person. I want to be but I hate getting up early and love sleeping in and having lazy mornings.

    Hubby has a crazy schedule at his new job that involves rotating shift work so now he is coming home from work when I am still sleeping but that will change.

    As a general rule though he needs much less sleep than me and gets up earlier than me.

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  44. i LOATHE the morning. it comes way too soon. i stay at home with my girlies too and since my husband gets up early to get ready for work and my kids get up at the butt crack of dawn, they are a perfect match.
    he gets up with them and gets them breakfast so i can get a few extra z's before they are tapping me on the shoulder

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  45. Hi, this is my first time commenting! I have to be at work at 7 and my hubby can go in any time before 9. So that means I almost always leave the house before he even gets up out of bed. I love when I say bye to him and he sits up in bed all sleepy to give me a hug and tell me a bunch of times that he loves me and to have a good day. Definitely a favorite part of my day. :-)

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