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Thursday, December 8, 2011

An epiphany about motherhood. Not quite, but it sounds good.

Last week I had that freakish day where Emeline slept in super late (I ended up having to wake her at 10am! holy.cow.), remember that, and when I wrote about it? Anyway. I do. In fact, I will never, ever, ever forget that morning. It was that abnormal.

I had tweeted something about how weird and amazingly fast it was to have gotten myself dressed, hair did, and makeup completed all without a little toddler child at my feet. I mean, let's be real. While it's so sweet and adorable to get leg hugs while you're trying to pull up your jeans, it does make the job go a lot slower. Same with trying to do your makeup, while realizing your toddler just stole your eyeliner and is running wild all over the 3rd floor threatening to color the walls with it. Everything is doubly adorable with a child running around, but takes double the time. At least for us.

Anyway. 

I got a reply to that tweet from someone saying how she still, as an adult, when she goes over to her parents house, loves to sit in the bathroom with her mom as she gets ready.

And you know what? When I started thinking about that....umm....I totally do that too

If my mom's upstairs still doing her makeup or whatever, I'll barge right up there and sit on the edge of the tub & chat, or root through her random makeup, use her hairspray, you know...all those things. It just feel comfortable. And she's my momma.

And it made me think.

One day when Emeline becomes an adult who no longer lives in my home, I hope she too will want to come sit with her momma when I do my hair, or when I'm putting on the final touches of my makeup.

Because I hope she'll link all these times now to fond memories one day. 

You know. Like when she squinches up her cheeks and I put a dab of blush on them. Or when she runs around with my underwear on as a necklace (stop judging me). Or when she pulls out my box of tampons and pulls every last one out. Or when she points to all my earrings saying "pretty momma". Or when she waves to the toilet and says "buh-bye poo-poo" (even when there is nothing in it). Or when she proclaims her love for my small shoe collection. Or when she hides behind the clothes piles in my closet playing peek-a-boo with me. 

One day, she'll turn into a girl. A bigger girl. Who will sit on my bathroom counter painting her nails and asking me questions about makeup. And shaving her legs. And boys. gasp.

No matter how long it takes to do my makeup, get myself dressed, or do my hair with my daughter beside me? I'm gonna go ahead and say, it's totally worth it. 

And if one day, when she's an adult and still wants to come and talk to her 'ole Ma when she's getting dressed & ready? She'll always be welcome.


48 comments:

  1. awe what a sweet post!! I too still hang with my mom when I'm "home" too. Let's face it moms have way cool makeup! But this puts a whole new perspective on it and now I won't get so frustrated with lil KP when she makes my mornings 10x longer than they need to be.

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  2. This is so sweet! I totally barge in on my mom as she's getting ready too - never realized it until now :)

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  3. This is so sweet! I hope that my daughter does the same thing. I completely agree, while things take twice as long because my daughter is involved, it is that much more special because she's involved.

    ~Laura

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  4. I do that to my Mom too! This post is a sweet reminder to enjoy our sweet babies a little more. :) Well written!

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  5. I realized, just now, that I do that with my mom too! It must be a mom/daughter thing. My mom has always used her laundry room to get ready and I always sit on the counter. Always have. I never thought of it as something special but I guess it is. :)

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  6. This post is so great:-) I loved watching my dad shave and my mom get ready and I still sit with my mom when I'm home. Something that's also sticking with me from this post? How thankful I am that I am not the only one who's toddler is obsessed with putting bras and underwear around her neck! :-) :-)

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  7. this made me tear up. seriously. omg i love it! totally puts a different spin on the morning crazies that drive me insane. thank you for sharing. (see my video today and you'll understand how much i needed to read this today).

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  8. Yup, I do that with my momma too! And, I hope to one day have a little girl that does that to me too! :)

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  9. such a sweet post and a great reminder to me with a toddler when it takes that extra time.

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  10. I love this. Obviously I have a little boy, but he still loves playing in all my makeup and nail polish at this point and I have to admit that I love it. Ok, sometimes it really, really irritates me, but most of the times I appreciate the bonding time. I know one day...he will not think it's so cool anymore and I will miss it.

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  11. The best conversations i've ever had with my mum has been in the bathroom or me scrawled across her bed watching her put her makeup on.

    Gorgeous post lovely.
    xx

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  12. Such an awesome post - it seriously brought some tears to my eyes! Isn't it wonderful how these little tiny people make us see the world around us so very differently?!

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  13. Very sweet post. I like this one. I can obviously relate on this one. Mia loves to take my powder out and dab it on her face while I'm doing my make up. It might be one of the cutest things she does.
    This was a good reminder! Thanks!

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  14. Such a great post!! Totally something I still do when over at my moms and I hope that my girls grow up with the same memories and even come sit and chat while I'm getting ready as an old fart! Lol!

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  15. I definitely always did this too! My mom doesn't wear a ton of makeup but when she dries her hair I always go in and sit on the tub to talk to her!

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  16. This makes my nose tingle! What a sweet post. I do the same thing with my mom. I sit on the edge of her tub while she's getting ready and prowl around in her stuff. It's fun. I'm rather fond of my sweet momma! Looks like Emme is too!

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  17. I always do this whenever I am at my mom's house too :) Such a sweet post!

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  18. I still go in my moms bathroom while she is getting ready too. And the underwear as a necklace...my daughter does the exact same thing! Now she knows how to put them on the right way and will run around with them over her clothes and run away from me when I try to get them from her. Oh the joys of being a Mommy! I've been reading your blog for a while and have finally created a Google account so I can comment. I just wanted to say that I LOVE your blog and read it daily.

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  19. She will, She will! My mom still doesnt get any privacy even when she's USING the bathroom. The other day I honestly thought, "ok ali, give her some privacy ... tell her after" because I'm so used to just walking in! I know E will be the same way!

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  20. This made me a little teary (and also really want a girl next). :) So so sweet. And I didn't realize I still do that with my mom too!

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  21. This is so sweet!

    My mom and I don't have that kind of relationship, but I'd love to cultivate it with my girl :)

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  22. Love this! My son hangs out with me while I get ready and brush my teeth but this makes me want to have a little girl next :) So sweet!

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  23. K loves to put on my lip gloss already. It's so dang cute.

    What a lovely and true post, Katie. I still hang out in my Mom's room sometimes too, you know if the kids are being good while we are there... ;)

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  24. Yep. I still hang out in my mom's bathroom when she's doing her makeup... I'm an edge of the tub girl or on a closed toilet. I think, when I was a teenager, I would lounge INSIDE the tub. I was a weird one. =) As I was reading this I was thinking how I can't even IMAGINE Zoe as a teenager... it's just going to be so crazy!

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  25. I lol'd at the visual of her wearing underwear as a necklace, pulling out the tampons and waving good bye to invisible poop. :) Kids crack me up.

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  26. I absolutely do that too! I was actually thrilled when my parents moved and their new bathroom was bigger - more room to hang out and visit!!

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  27. OK. you just made me cry at work. I totally did that too until this year. My world was rocked to it's absolute core in 2011. My mom was diagnosed w/ an advanced brain tumor and died in four months. Please treatsure the time that you have with your mothers and your daughters because they can disappear in an instant.

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  28. I love this post, it made me tear up. I totally do this with my mom still, and I love the way my one year old daughter hangs out with me while I get ready in the morning. Somehow I never connected the two until today. Thank you!

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  29. My emotions were not ready for this post. not even a little bit.

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  30. Now that you bring this all up, I definitely still do that when I go home, and I even remember as a little girl sitting there when my mom was getting ready for a date night with my dad. I was always so content just sitting there watching her. I'm sure these moments are ones you won't ever forget, and she won't either. :)

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  31. Oh wow, never actually realized, we (my Sisters and I) do that when visiting our Mom as well! Wow! That is amazing. Such sweets moments there! Or, with us, about a million laughs!!! :D Since I do not get to see my Mother that often, these "little things" I will forever cherish. :)

    Oh, and undies as a necklace? Ha! My BOYS do that too! Sheesh!

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  32. Beautiful post. And yep, I totally do this to my mom too. :)

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  33. This is so true for me too. This post made me miss my mom! But, since she's gone I do catch myself doing this exact thing with my grandma (we're super close).

    :)

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  34. Oh geez, now I'm all choked up! It makes me think about my baby and my mom and me being a mom and my baby growing up and I'm all verklempt. :-)

    Great post, doll!

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  35. That is such a sweet image. I hope my girls are also like that with me. :)

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  36. So, I never comment, But I decided that I would tonight. I am so glad that you wrote this because it totally put it in perspective for me. Rather than getting aggitated when my daughter (shes 3) is slowing me down, I am just going to soak it up and enjoy it because it wont be long before she doesn't think I am cool anymore. Thank you a ton for this. I really needed it. Also congrats on all the weight loss and the 5Ks. you are one amazing woman!

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  37. This is sweet, I still do that with my momma too :)

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  38. I adore this post!

    Like one of the best EVER!

    Gave me chills. As a little girl, my mom captured pictures of me brushing my teeth while my daddy shaved before work.

    As I got older, I'd still sit and talk with him while he shaved. When I was 22 years old he died suddenly of a heart attack at home.
    Our last conversation together was in the bathroom just like all those countless other conversations throughout my life...

    (I have also done that with my mom too, but it was full circle with my dad for sure.)

    Love this!

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  39. Oh Katie this made me tear up. I remember doing this with my mom and I only hope that Kinsley will want to do the same thing. It warms my heart to think of the future when she's older and how things will be.

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  40. Love, love, love this post! :) Thank you!!

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  41. Okay, so this made me a little teary-eyed! What a beautiful perspective!

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  42. What a sweet post! We get to experience some of the most amazing moments as Mothers. I absolutely love it and will miss it as always.

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  43. I doubt my little man will be hanging with me while I do my make up for years and years, so I'll just try to enjoy the comedy he brings to my routine right now.

    I'm still amazed at the way he's silently soaking everything up like a sponge. Seems like just yesterday he dumped all of my tampons in the toilet and now he's grown up enough to walk up to me and poke me in the crotch with it. ;) I hope I'm not scarring him for life.

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  44. What a sweet post. If I'm at my mom's and she happens to be doing her hair or putting on her make-up, then I'm always in there with her chatting. I love those moments.

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  45. Oh my gosh, I do this too!!! I never even thought twice about it til reading your post either

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  46. I absolutely loved this post. My eighteen month old son does a lot of these things too.

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