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Thursday, June 6, 2013

even if it's a trip to the bank.

I used to love a good morning home. I used to crave a rainy day when Emeline was little and easily entertained. An excuse to stay home and not have to run errands, or drag a child out in the rain, or get out of pajamas if I'm being honest. I mean, what's better than that?

I remember when I was a teacher, and seeing or hearing about someone staying home in the morning with their babies and it looked.so.good. It was so appealing and I prayed that someday that would be me. That I'd be able to have slow, peaceful mornings with my little family. I did, and was able to, and honestly? I loved that. Especially when Emeline was the only one.

It was easy to enjoy those mornings with one baby. I could still watch my own tv shows, since she had no opinion (to at least verbalize, haha), my schedule revolved around hers, I could sip my coffee in much more peace than I can now, she was still easily occupied by her sweet, little baby toys. I'd just rotate a few things, hop from the jumperoo to the walker to the pile o'toys on the floor, and she was happy as a clam.

My tune to the Stay At Home Mornings changed drastically when Emeline got older. She began getting bored with things here. She got into less trouble if we were out and about, running errands, or on a nice day spending it at a park or on a date with friends. She'd nap better, too. Obviously. I began needing those mornings out, too. I got exhausted answering the "may I have a snack?" question for the 290382908th time when we were home. It seemed like all she wanted was a dang snack and no matter how many fun activities I tried to come up with, nothing really seemed to excite her for too long. I'd feel guilty if I let her watch TV, and yet I had the whole work-from-home-still-parent balance to maintain and real legit work stuff to do. It was hard.

I began to dread a rainy day. I began to dread snow days. I just needed to get out, every day, and the ebb and flow of things was smooth.

Now? Now I have two kids, I have issues like whoa staying home any morning of the week. I get an overwhelming cabin-fever feel (isn't that silly?? it's ONE DAY), and I feel antsy and fidgety. I have issues. Actually, the only morning I really, really enjoy staying home is Saturday. When Daddy is home. We make a big breakfast. We explode the living room with toys. We take a long time cleaning up the kitchen. We discover toys that have been lost in the depths of the toy box for far too long. It's actually a really nice morning.

Now that preschool has been over and the structure of a few mornings a week that were determined are, well, less structured now, I'm especially grateful for my Y membership. I can workout. They can play. It provides a little break in the morning. Getting some energy out. Playing with friends. Usually I run into one or six people I know and we socialize, can workout together, or whatever. It makes the entire morning and afternoon go smoother if we can just get out of the house.

I've learned to maneuver my schedule and use my time differently. I take advantage of different hours of the day to work (that's a whole 'nother post). I really don't like at-home mornings anymore because they put me in a funk. And I mean, full at home mornings, because we're up pretty early and always home for a good, long time before we head out. But, we need to get out at some point in the mornings.

Are you the same? Or do you love being home with the kids? I find this goes in phases for me.

Whether you're home, reading this from the gym (hehe), or at work---enjoy your day. It's almost Friday.

xo


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29 comments:

  1. Yeah two year olds need to get out of the house. A Papa visit or a play date works too. I couldn't live in snow the child would drive me crazy.

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  2. I am soooo with you on this! My son just turned 3, and we both get completely stir crazy if we don't get out of the house. Even if it's just to walk around target (for the 8th time this week) or bringing a handful of quarters to the local outdoor shopping mall so he can ride the silly 50 cent trucks & merry-go-rounds ; ) Busy, and tired from being busy toddlers/preschoolers are MUCH easier to handle...and a Mama who has seen the light of day and has happened upon a delicious iced coffee along the way is always happier to deal ; )

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  3. Yes. This. EXACTLY.

    At home days are horrible. Like TODAY. We are going to Barnes and noble to play with trains just because I cannot handle being at home another moment.

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  4. There have been days where I've said we are just going to stay home and relax and after about 1/2 hour of that I decide NO WAY we are going to the gym. When the kids are driving you insane already at 7AM, that's a clue to me we can't stay home.

    The day is better when we are gone in the morning.

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  5. When I was unemployed I hated staying at home, but not having any money meant I was limited in what I could do. I always tried to plan something every 2 days (except weekends when the rest of my family was home) and LOVED Thursdays because most Thursday I had an appointment in the afternoon which was near a cute vintage/handmade cafe/shop that I could browse in, also I had a reason to get out of the house. Some days I didn't mind staying at home but I would get cabin fever after 2 days in a row which made me depressed which didn't help the situation I was in.
    Now I work (only a few hours day 5 days a week) if my day off is a Friday (it alternates between Fridays and Saturdays) I still aim to go out, as I start work late and end early (my job is werid) so I tend that being able to sleep in and get up at my leasure lets me have my down time.
    I do get cabin fever though so I know how you feel!

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  6. I have no kids and am single, but most mornings, I'm content with just staying home if I'm not working, but if I stay home for too long or if I have two days off in a row, I'm looking for somewhere to go!

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  7. I completely understand the feeling. For me since I work in the mornings from 5-12 it's afternoons that I need to get out of the house. I come home from work, have lunch, prepare dinner, clean up a bit and then we're out. Whether it's a quick trip to Target, a walk around the neighborhood or going to the park or zoo I always have this feeling of needing to escape a little bit. Rainy days are awful... Olivia gets into trouble, she's restless, we're all grumpy and it's boring. Lately though, with the summery weather I've resorted to letting her play outside even in the rain since it's warm. She gets filthy muddy but she loves it and it gives me a break.

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  8. Yup know the feeling. I've been feeling that way since my 3rd cutie was born. It's not so easy to just pick up and dash out for a bit. I miss that.

    But someday they'll be running with school and activities that we'll start craving days home again. I guess it's just a big ciiirrcle of liiiiifeee.....

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  9. Your description of Emeline at home is EXACTLY what my daughter is like right now! She dries me crazy. If we get out everyday for weeks, we can probably make it through one mo running...because then it's a novel idea, but the very next day we better start getting out again! Luckily we have a lot of free programs for children under 6 around here, so with that and the gym daycare, we are able to get out every morning! Thank god for that, cause I don't know what I'd do without them!

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  10. Well I've been without a car for a couple of months now, so being at home is really all we've been doing. We do go outside and play everyday that the weather is nice though! Our front yard is fenced in, so we go out there where we can see people and cars. I get my car back this week though so hallelujah to that!

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  11. I think I'll definitely be utilizing the hell out of our local gym when I have kids...gives you a much needed break (or blow off of steam when things are on the point of unbearable) and gives them time to just hang out and play with other kids. I definitely do what you used to do - I hear about rainy days in PJ's with movies and fun but it's one of the 'grass is greener' scenarios.

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  12. I don't know which category I fall into, because with a 20 and 28 month old, I'm scared to leave the house alone with the two of them, unless it's to go to the park. I love to get out, just not with them :p

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  13. We cannot be in the house all day. Every morning, we get up and at least run an errand and go to the park after my workout. AT LEAST. We trapped in today because of the tropical storm, and I'm already losing my mind. And it's not yet noon.

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  14. I can totally relate! I get major cabin fever if I don't get out everyday, even just to run boring errands. I have always been like that though, even when the twins were only a few months old. I took those girls everywhere! Now it's harder to get out but we do everyday mostly doing kid things- park, play dates, library etc. I too feel like they get so bored being at home all day! Plus it breaks up my day to get out :)

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  15. Jimmy and me laugh about this all the time b/c he "harasses" me that I drive more now that I don't work than when I did. It's true. I can't stand being home for too long. You'd think it'd be harder to be out and about but no way! Way easier. Today I thought "man it's rainy {yay!} we'll just stay home" and about 30 minutes into the day I thought NO WAY! We are getting doughnuts, returning our library books and mailing our Netflix back, little things but man it makes a difference!

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  16. I feel like I could've wrote this post! I only have one though so you pretty much talked me out of ever having a number 2! And I don't know about you but it's IMPOSSIBLE for me to explain this to my (working) husband! I can only imagine the older my boy gets (he's 20months) the worse it will get!

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  17. I am SOOOOO with you on this! I CREATE reasons to get out of the house. I mean... Target cashiers practically know us by name because I'll go just to get one thing if it means an errand out of the house. In fact, today we're supposed to have a Tropical Storm blow through and I was like, "Oh sweet baby jesus, I have no idea how I'm going to survive this." so... we went to Target.

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  18. This is the TOP reason that it's so HARD to watch kids in my home. I'm literally STUCK at home. All day, every day. Depressing like whoa! I feel ya!!!

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  19. After my last blog post, my friend suggested we NOT go somewhere every day. I explained that would make things so.much.worse. We HAVE to go places of things are all tv and fighting and snacks all day and no one is happy.

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  20. I'm just now beginning to feel this way. I use to LOVE being at home, but I am finding myself using any and every excuse to get out of the house. My two kids are 50 weeks apart (and one on the way) and they drive me absolutely crazy if we aren't out doing something fun! They continually fight with one another and it makes me batty!

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  21. Now that mine are 5 and almost 4, staying home is a treat again! Hang in there, before you know it they will be begging to just stay home so they can play together :) I do remember the days of trying to find any excuse to run an errand. It's amazing how fiercely the dynamic changes with 1 extra kid!

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  22. That's so funny, bc I felt the same way with one child when she was younger. But when she got older it was like, lets get out of here for our sanity! Now with two children, I'm mixed. I love a morning at home but I feel like I don't appreciate the. As much bc I have a million things on my mind. Like when can I shower? When should I workout? Did I read all my blogs yet to get it over with for the day? Just so much! Maybe next week I should make it a goal to sit and enjoy the little things, since we are going on a solo vacation after that!!

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  23. I remember having those same thoughts pre-SAHM. Stories from other women just staying home with their babies on a rainy day made my heart long. So thankful that it came into fruition - obviously for many reasons. Right now I like both days at home and days out and about. As long as there is a good mix in the week :-)

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  24. I crave both. Today we did Nothing (with a capital N!) and it was awesome but yes, some days we have to get out and about. I think it will continue to change as your girls get older, etc.

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  25. I'm the same way - gotta get out of the house for SOMETHING - even if it's just to the park.

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  26. I'm the same way - gotta get out of the house for SOMETHING - even if it's just to the park.

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  27. I'm so weird. I could stay home all morning, every day. I love it. I've always been a little bit of a hermit. I like my comfort zone. Noah's even cool with chilling out at home. But I know it's not normal (or good) for us to be this way, so we do go out often. Even if it's just to Target or therapy or whatever. :)

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  28. I am so with you. We went to the zoo with our friends on saturday and had so much fun I bought a season pass ... just so I have something to look forward to and MAKE me go do. I am planning on one morning a week that we'll go. We are ALL going to miss the structure of preschool mornings.

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  29. I am so with you. We went to the zoo with our friends on saturday and had so much fun I bought a season pass ... just so I have something to look forward to and MAKE me go do. I am planning on one morning a week that we'll go. We are ALL going to miss the structure of preschool mornings.

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