Most mornings I reluctantly go downstairs, plop them both on the couch, give them some milk or something breakfast'y (like cheerios or granola bar, etc), I brew my coffee, and then we sit and watch a kid show, in the dark. It helps me pretend that we're still in peaceful-morning-mode, so shhhhhhhhh. We like to go slow.
(Can you tell I'm not a morning person?)
Eventually they go to to table and eat real breakfast. Like, I'll make something legit--eggs & bacon, waffles (for them), fruit, yogurt, etc. I do computer-type-stuff while I'm eating breakfast...check my work email, make sure my posts for work are scheduled, etc.
If it's a Monday morning, I go to work for a meeting. Which means, get the kids to my parents house bright and early. Hopefully early enough that I can ingest a 2nd cup of coffee at their house because God knows I need it.
If it's a Tues/Thurs, then Thank The Good Lord, it's a preschool day (hallelujah emoticon). I am chasing around two kids and begging them to just PUT ON THEIR CLOTHES and where the heck are your shoes???? and SOCKS??? For the love! I throw on the most hodge-podged outfit, trying to come off as pulled together when I'm really a frazzled mess, and we roll out the door by 9:15. It's a miracle.
Emeline always asks me to pray on the way to school. Always at the exact same point. We pray simple things, like for safety, that she'd have a fun day, be a kind friend, etc.
If it's a Wed/Fri we normally go to the gym so the girls can play and I can get my pump on. Typically I am more than ready by that time to say SEE YA to the girls (for just an hour), and it's a great way to get my workout in. If I schedule a play date during the week, it's usually on a Wed or Fri late morning and I'll adjust my gym time.
If we're home, Lucy still loves a good morning nap. Normally it's just a 30 min-hour deal. It's enough time for me to get my hair and makeup done and sorta dressed without the climbing rascal getting into everything (and I mean EVERYTHINGGGG). However, if we're out and about, girlfriend can hang until 1-1:30 for an afternoon nap, although she is tiiiiiiiired.
For the last few months I've been attending a women's bible study on Thursday mornings. It has babysitting (for Lucy, since Em is in school), and it's one of my highlights of the week. We're taking a break for the holidays. I cannot waittttt to start back up again in Februrary. Now that I type that, that feels like a really long time away. wahhhh.
No matter what is going on in the mornings, our sacred "HOME TIME" is 1pm-4pm. Nothing, I repeat, nothing gets in the way of naptime in this house. We eat lunch, go upstairs, potty, sometimes insistent on wearing pj's, sing a song, and to bed. Both of them. Very, very rarely do I get a naptime fight from Em. She really likes sleep still. I REALLY LOVE it when she naps. All is good. It is Mom-Work-Hour. I brew coffee, sit on the couch, login to work stuff, and do my writing. Some days I have to shower or whatever, too--but I try to fit it all in.
Declan and I's communication during the day is via Skype. Is that weird? His work uses skype as a way of all staying connected--I have it on my phone and my laptop, so if he needs me that's normally how we chat. Emeline often asks to "STIPE WITH DADDY", meaning, she wants to video chat. Maybe once a week we do that. Back in the day we used to use AIM to chat (ha-throwback!), so this sorta taps in on that same feeling. I like it :)
We eat dinner on granny-time. I think it's because my husband goes to work early, and gets home early--so we very rarely eat after 5:30pm and honestly? It's more like 4:45-5. I realize that this is weird-but I kind of like it this way. If we go to the gym at night, then we're all digested and yet have energy to workout. Win.
I used to only workout in the morning. I've changed my routine a lot the last few months and now there are 3 nights a week we go. Well, I go 3x and Declan goes 2x. On that off night he is facilitating a small group for Church, where he often can take Em with him.
We try and visit Declan's work a few times a month. Normally we meet for Chick-fil-a or before it was cold, we'd meet and eat at our fun, secret park right near his office. It helps break up a long day and the girls (and Declan) love it.
Declan does all the laundry in our house...always has, willingly, too. Usually on Saturdays or Sundays. I, however, am the putter-away'er. Which means it could take weeks, as I'm perfectly fine with living out of baskets. It's bad.
I'm the one who cooks, although Declan is capable. It's just easier since I do the planning, and I'm home. Although there are some nights I boycott.
We usually have a fun weekend cheat for something like greasy pizza and fries, or Chili's, or something. I look forward to this day all week. I like crappy food even though I tell myself I don't.
If Emeline takes a nap, she knows that she gets what we call "Big Girl Time" that night. So, extra sleep (nap)=extra awake time. It works out for us great most of the time. We do bathtime at 7:15-7:30. Then Lucy goes straight to bed. Em gets to come downstairs and can either play some more, or watch a show if she'd like (usually Sprout night-night show), and have a snack (only if she finished her dinner). She goes up by 8:15-8:30.
We DVR all our shows and never (rarely) watch them anywhere near the time they air. Except for The Voice, since we have to get our votes in for Matthew Schuler by 11am the next day (hehe). The shows we watch together are: Revolution, Parks & Rec, New Girl, Parenthood, Shark Tank, MasterChef (or Junior, whichever is on at the time), The Voice, and sometimes we'll fast forward through X-Factor only because we like the singing couple on there. It's actually not many shows at all.
However, I watch a few on my own through the week. I usually try to catch Biggest Loser, random shows like The Little Couple or SisterWives (if it's on), Kardashians, and sometimes a Real Housewives (only OC and NY I watch, which right now it isn't on). I know, it's complete trash. It's my naptime background TV while I work.
A few nights a week we will cuddle on the couch after the girls are in bed and watch a show. There are nights he'll go to the basement and watch sports or play a video game, and I'll watch some garbage TV or blog/read blogs/work. On weekends we try to watch a movie, or do something that feels more special and at-home-date'ish after the girls are asleep.
Some nights we will even brew a cup of coffee and watch TV like old people together. It's love.
Wednesday nights we have ballet. I usually go alone because it's a chance to talk to my friend (whose daughter is in dance) without my rascal, Lucy around. Two Wednesdays a month we also meet with Declan's whole side of the family for dinner afterwards, to be together.
Usually about one weeknight a week (or sometimes a weekend) I proclaim that I AM GOING OUT. My husband doesn't care, at all. He's more than capable to bathe and put both girls to bed alone, and he's all for me getting some me-time. Sometimes I go to Target alone, sometimes I have a party or gathering scheduled (like this past weekend), or sometimes I meet someone for dinner or drinks. But I just need that time.
More often than not I leave the house a MESS before we go out. It sucks to come home to. So I am trying to be better. But living with tiny tornadoes makes it difficult.
The only way I fit showering into my life is right after I put Lucy down for bed, while Declan is downstairs with Em for her big girl time. It works. Maybe twice a week I'll use half of naptime to shower but I hate it. Feels like a total waste to me. ha.
I do not like to talk on the phone during the day, like, at all. I will, if it's certain people, or family, etc. But I do not pick up the phone for just anyone, especially during naptime. What if I got caught on the phone for way.too.long and my alone time is gone? Yes, I'm dramatic. Also. Text me.
Both my girls like to dance and sing. Like, all the time. Amazing Grace somehow become our song. It's what they want before bed and nap, and I know that's not exactly a kid song. But whatever. They also can be found singing Macklemore from time to time. We are very musically diverse.
They like the music loud in the car. We have had to set a magic # that the volume cannot go past or else Em would want it cranked up to the moon and back. If we turn it down to talk (or answer HER question), she will immediately tell us to "TURN THE MUSIC LOUDER PLEASE!"
When we drive as a family, Declan always prefers to drive. He isn't a fan of my driving, and tells me that often, haha. I'm just a tad more aggressive than he is. That equally bugs me about him. I want him to be a tad more aggressive on the road. Isn't that funny? Driving must go hand in hand with parts of your personality, eh?
I'm always tired before Declan at night. Always. I'm just gonna go ahead and say that being with the kids is more physically tiring than working at a desk.
We try to do something fun each weekend and be intentional about family activities/outings. It can be simple. Going to the farm, the park, the mall, even. But being together, doing something all together. I really like that time and feel like I cling to it with a death grip sometimes. I don't like our family time being compromised.
Declan and I get a date night at least once a month. We aim for 2x, though. One time is through the Y's Parents Night Out. The other time is either his mom or my parents. We always, always go to dinner someplace nice'ish that isn't ideal with kids. We always somehow end up at Marshall's or Target.
We grocery shop 1x a week. Usually a weekend day and one of us goes alone. On rare occasion we will do a Target shopping trip all together, get the big cart, bribe the girls with popcorn, and get 'er done. I find grocery shopping to be the worst task of the week. It bugs me. I need a grocery delivery service.