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Thursday, December 5, 2013

All better! & Blog talk

Four days. We were in four days of sick-cabin-fever, Momma's-back's-been-out, haven't-worked-out, missed-ballet, missed-preschool, Momma's-gonna-lose-her-mind hay-ull. And I will be the first to tell you that it's pathetic that this makes me sad and blah because it's REALLY NOT THAT LONG at all and people have it so much worse. It was just such a screeching halt to our normal life that it was so....exhausting. In a lazy'ing around on the couch way.

ANYWAY. We were 24 hours fever-free, had our first night where Em slept straight through and felt awesome this morning--so I dropped her off at school today (girl was begging to go) with a hop in my step. Because. Well, duh.

I came home and made myself a big breakfast (after putting Lucy down for a nap), and brewed another cup of coffee--and breathed. Alone at last.

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I have always been the type to entertain a sponsored post here and there. As in, once every few months. I truly think that in balance, it's ok. And if not in balance, then that's your choice and if I don't like it, I don't have to read. But lately--it just doesn't feel right anymore. I think, it's just--I have finally decided that I don't really have the desire to do it at all.

It feels inauthentic to me. It feels like work (and I guess it is). And I really don't like it. I got picked to do something that involved free diapers. FREE DIAPERS. And not only free diapers, but a hundred bucks on the side. And I wrote them back and just said I'm sorry, but I couldn't do it anymore. If it gave me a weird feeling in my gut to fake that I like a certain brand of diapers when I really don't? Then I'm not ok with that.

It's really important to me to stay true to myself. I'm just too dang honest to lie for a buck.

So just know that if--whenever I do a sponsored ANYTHING (which is super duper rarely--I'd rather just not, and ramble about nothing all the time), it is with great thought and Do I Actually Like This, and serious contemplation. Because if not it feels yucky inside and I just don't do that. K?

Personally, I don't care to make a dime from writing here and thankfully anything extra from this blog was always just that, extra. My head and heart has changed so much in that area over the last year, and for me (not judging anyone else), it's for the better.

No pressure is good for me. Being honest and true to myself, well, that's a no brainer.

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I know this is an area people could talk about all day. I'm curious to know your thoughts about it, though. Do you appreciate when a blog you love to read stays away from sponsored-typed-freebie-giveaway type posts? Or do you like it in balance?

Be honest. I like honest. I don't like mean, however.

;)

31 comments:

  1. HATE it! I have a couple of blogs that I pop on and read every now and then... I love reading the trials and tribulations of what other moms with similar aged kids are going through. The stories on the blogs I like to read make me laugh, cry, and think. Sometimes it's the most rambling of blogs that bring a little smile to my chaotic day... and I love that. When I all of a sudden pop onto a blog looking for that personal connection/update and there is a sponsored post??!! Somehow, that little connection is lost for me. I know not all readers feel that way, but that's my take. :)
    BTW... totally different reaction if it's supporting a local and/or blogging friend/mom/family member/etc... that I see as spreading the word and just wanting to "talk" about something impacting your life.
    Love your blog! Adore the stories! Love how true you are to you and who your family are. We have #2 due in March (already have a 3 year old little girl)... and I am taking "notes" as you take of the world of having two before me!

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  2. I appreciate when I see you've written a post that you aren't going to sneak in an ad somewhere. I often start to read a blog looking forward to stories and pictures and along the way I realize it's an ad and I just kind of feel cheated or tricked. Glad the sickies are over for both of us!

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  3. So happy to hear Em is feeling better! It is rough when they feel awful! You will get back into your groove and find your little bits of joy again...sometimes I think getting off track is to remind us to soak up the details of the good. ;)

    I very rarely do sponsored posts, but I've done a few these past few months. I feel like as a blogger you do have to go that extra mile and ask yourself lots of questions before you agree to do something. Any funds made from my blog go directly to paying for my expensive medications or bills. It wasn't ever my goal with the blog, but it can be really nice sometimes when I can make that aspect work. I do agree that you have to be true to you and if you can sit with it at the end of the day, then by all means, do what makes you happy!

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    1. girl, I agree. If you or your family need the money for stuff, I think it'd be foolish not to use that resource if you can. love your heart.

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  4. There are many blogs that I used to really like that I stopped following/reading because of sponsored posts. That plus being too awesome to respond to comments is a huge turn off. Sorry, I won't boost your page views so you can make an extra buck or get free crap and then not even have to time to respond when I took the time to comment. And those sneaky blog posts that make you think you are reading something real and then they slip the sponsored crap in? Ew.

    Anywho, I am glad Emeline is feeling better and "normalness" can resume.

    You know I heart you. In blog land and real life.

    xoxo

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    1. Love what Meg said! I try to respond to each and every comment I get, even if it's a simple "thank you for reading" because I know what it's like to comment and comment and comment and get NOTHING from the blogger, it burns a little.

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  5. I am thankful you are staying true to what you believe in. I am not a big fan of the sponsorships. I enjoy blogs like your's that are keeping it real in everyday life and seeing/learning/hearing how people live and their lives in all different parts of the country. I had one blog I enjoyed following and lately it's all sponsorship stuff, no real life and it's not a blog I enjoy visiting anymore. Random ones here and there won't turn me off but reptetitively and I am done.

    So glad health and routein is returning to your home. Prayerfully, it is all done for the Christmas season!

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  6. I used to do a TON of sponsored posts on my blog. I'd say that 75% of them were products I did use & love (like the time I did a Keurig or Huggies or Nutrisystem or Jockey) but there were a few times where I just needed the $150-$300 sponsor fee.

    For me, I backed off significantly. It's been MONTHS since I've done a sponsored post. I have two coming up, but only to help alleviate the stress of my husband losing his job last month.

    I'm torn about other bloggers. I understand that it's hard to say no when the blog is a genuine part of a family's income & CPM ad rates can vary so much. So I never begrudge a blogger doing work - I just view it as work, I give them the page view, then move on. I don't comment or think about whether or not they actually use it.

    What grinds my gears are "round-ups" of products simply to use affiliate links. I don't mind affiliate links but sweet cheese & rice, if I see one more round up of things I should wear or buy this season, I'm going to explode. WRITE, PEOPLE. JUST WRITE.

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    1. good points, and I like your standpoint. :) xo

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  7. I liked the good ole days when people wrote about products they like because they actually like them, not because they are getting paid. I don't trust any sponsored posts anyway. I much prefer to read about other people's daily lives, it's like a reality show. Keep doing your thing!

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  8. So glad Eme is feeling better! I think all moms can relate to the whole "I feel bad my kid isn't feeling well, I really do, but it is exhausting!" kind of feeling. Hopefully now you all can get back to the normal again.

    On the other note,
    Honestly I love your blog and I feel like you genuinely write what you feel and include your followers in on your family. I've been reading your blog since before Eme was born and I wouldn't invest that much time if I truly didn't like what you had to say. Because of that, I don't mind if every now and then you had a sponsored post... especially if I know that you aren't just doing it for the money but you actually like the product (bonus if it is a mom product that could make my life easier and I've never heard of it!) I just don't like it when 5+ blogs sponsor the same thing on the same day... all I've been seeing lately is Smirnoff parties that they have sponsored and they all post them on the same day! Now that is annoying.

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  9. Our society is so commercialized I feel like someone is constantly trying to sell me something. I can't open the computer or step out of my house without ads. When I open my reader to relax and catch up on blogs, I don't want someone trying to sell me something. If people need to do it for money, fine--no problem, but I'll probably stop reading.

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  10. I have unfollowed so many people because of sponsored posts. There are a few others that are upping it a lot and are dangerously close to being kicked off my reader. I just hate it. You're right..it sounds completely inauthentic. I don't begrudge people making money but if you started a blog in the first place to write...you aren't getting paid to write. You're getting paid to hock some random item, like free diapers you don't even like. It just feels like whoring yourself out. But, I love that you don't do them often and when you do, it at least seems like you use the product! I love how real you are which is why I never skip a post, ever.

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  11. Those sponsored posts that EVERYONE does in the same week ANNOYING. I read blogs and occassionally write to connect with people, learn the ropes of this parenting gig, and feel like I am not the only one in the boat with an 18 month old that has YET TO SLEEP THROUGH THE NIGHT...With #2 on the way I love reading about your everyday life with two. If you threw in a sponsored post about something - i would assume that you loved it or it helped you in some way. Am I niave? Do people just write posts because they get money and not care about the product? Stay true - if you like it write about it if not - see ya later gator!

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  12. So glad you guys are feeling better!
    I honestly used to read a ton of blogs (pre-baby, she is a time suck that little girl of mine :-) ) but only read maybe two or three now because of that. I love when someone recommends something they love and if they get paid for it, BONUS! That being said it can get a little insane when every other post is sponsored and seems really inauthentic. I mean I can just watch commercials all day if I want. I of course have made the choice to not read the blogs like that anymore and I don't think poorly of them, it's just not what I choose to spend my time on. Your blog is my favorite and the only one I really follow. Just the other day I made a big batch of paleo granola and my sister asked where I got the recipe and I said "oh from my friend Katie" lol I had to check myself like girl you're crazy, you don't "know" her.

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  13. So glad she is better! It is haaaard when the littles are sick and the whole dynamic of your day changes. Take out gym time? Stick a fork in me. Done. So, yeah, I get it.

    I don't mind the sponsored posts. And most of the time if I am interested in the product, I love to read their opinion anyway! If not, then I just mark as read and go about my business. I am not going to let those things keep me from reading a blog..because I get it! I don't know their circumstances and those ads might be helping their family in a way that they might not share or, goodness, helping that mom have some extra money for herself. Nothing wrong with that, IMO! (Buuuuut, I'm with you...I couldn't lie about liking something if I really didn't. Would totally eat away at me!!)

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  14. I rarely comment on any blogs, but yours is one of my favorites. I love the way you write and seem so genuine. Your girls are adorable and you seem like someone I'd want to be friends with. There are several blogs that I have pretty much stopped reading, because they seem so fake and just like one big ad. I totally get occasionally promoting items you like and making a little extra cash, but some have gotten to the point where that is all they do. Yuck!

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  15. I have never commented before, but today is a must. THANK YOU!!!! I started reading blogs 4 years ago while pregnant with my first. Blogs were so much fun then. And then somehow overnight they changed and I totally lost interest. I'd be forever grateful for your beautiful writing, your adorable girls, and all the real stuff you put out there. I skip anyone's posts about toilet paper, vaccuums, etc. You rock Katie.

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  16. I've definitely been in the position where that $100 has been a huge blessing, so I try not to begrudge anyone else for taking advantage of the opportunities that come their way, either. I *do* appreciate when the things being reviewed are relevant, and also when the review is honest. I want to hear the good, and the bad. Not just PR copy.

    But GIRL, I'm all for giveaways. I always like the chance to win free stuff ;)

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  17. I completely understand why people don't like sponsored posts. I write a lot of them. I also try to write a lot about regular stuff to, to balance it out. I didn't start blogging to make money, but once I found out you could, it has really helped us. Skip hasn't had a contract in 3 years, which means no raise..except we added another kid and preschool tuition. So it really helps. So I don't fault people for doing sponsored posts. I'm also not offended if people don't read mine, or stop following because they think I do too many. That's their right as well!

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  18. I actually don't mind sponsored posts.....in moderation. Some blogs seem to have them every other day and that's just too much. If I'm not interested, I usually just skip past or "mark as read" in my feeder. I totally get bloggers wanting/needing to monetize their blog but they should diversify how they make money so they won't lose their readers or their traffic. Know what I mean?

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  19. I like your blog and would trust your sponsorships. It's funny how some bloggers are able to do sponsored posts and still seem honest. Others, more contrived. I really hate when you have to "click through" to finish reading a post. It is annoying and I don't see the point besides trying to show advertisers your following? I don't know how it works. Anyways, I also don't like when suddenly a group of people are "loving" a product that is so obviously not true.
    What I do love? When people post about a product to share it. For real. No payment, not even an affiliation. I love when someone is like, damn this toy is so great, you must buy it! Just cause. And THAT is when I will actually get te product.
    If you ever sponsor posted I would trust it. You are genuine through and through.

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  20. And Meredith makes a good point. Why are all sponsorship products always amazing?? Impossible. Lies.

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  21. I definitely think it's about balance. I enjoy doing sponsored posts - part of that may be because it's still new to me and I'm a smaller blog, but part of that is because I have genuinely found products I didn't know about and now love! The thing is though... just because you do sponsored posts doesn't mean you have to be inauthentic. If I don't believe in a product or know I won't like it, then I don't participate. I want my blog to be authentic and true to who I am. Again, it's just what works for you. I enjoy reading other people's posts about products too because I may learn about something new, but I don't want it to be because they got paid, I want it to be because they truly enjoyed the product or will tell me the highs and lows of it. First and fore most though, no matter what people say or how much they agree or disagree with you, it all comes down to what YOU want and what YOU believe in! :)

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  22. I usually don't read the sponsored posts. I don't read blogs for "ads" I read them to relate and connect and be inspired by other people (not inspired to spend money, inspired to be a good person and mother). If they want to do it, fine, I get it, but that's not why I go there. So Yes I definitely get annoyed if it is too often and start questioning what their intentions of their blog really are. Glad you've hit a place where you are just doing what feels right for you, THAT is what is important and that is what makes people enjoy a blog..

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  23. I usually do not like sponsored posts. Especially on the blogs that seem to do them more than writing about something going on in their lives, around the world, etc. But I have to say that on your blog, I have read every single 'sponsored' post you wrote about because the first ones I read always seemed genuine...so I continued, and always that the same 'this is real' feeling.

    I think that it is okay to share sometimes with your readers something that is sponsored. I mean, if it's part of your life and you feel good about it, and you get a freebie to share it, why not? But it shouldn't be every other post or even more than a couple a month! I never felt overwhelmed by posts like that on your blog. So I thought you were doing a great job keeping it balanced.

    Do what feels right for yourself, always. And your readers will continue to follow you, because it will always feel real :)

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  24. I wrote a longer post and the computer lost it...:(

    So to summarize. I never felt that your blog was sponsored post heavy. I like a nice balance. Like one or two sponsored posts a month. I mean, if you find something you love, you want to share with your readers, and the company is willing to pay you for it or give you some free item, why not!? :)

    I hate blogs that do sponsored posts every day (or such), so I definitely agree with finding a balance. Do what feels right for you and you will continue to have your readers, because it will always have that "this is real" feeling!

    xoxo

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  25. I don't particularly care for sponsored posts, but I get it. It does drive me kind of batty when it seems to be all you read or when they feel sneaky. I actually like hearing a good review of "favorite things" but when it's obviously related to money, I'd just assume you keep it short and sweet and get it over with because I'm just going to skip over it anyway. What I hate more than anything are rafflecopter giveaways with 5,000 entries and sponsored posts for other bloggers.

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  26. I'm a fan of sponsored posts for myself when it's something I know I'll enjoy or could have the potential to enjoy, at least. For instance, I did a review for a Tommee Tippee diaper disposal system not long ago. I was SO EXCITED. I wanted one of those things for so long. It was awful. It's a terrible product. I reviewed it as one I would not recommend. As long as you're honest and not saying, "It's the best ever!" when it's really not...I say, go for it.

    As far as READING blogs who do sponsored posts all the time (and by all the time, I mean 3-4 times a week), there is one blog in particular I can think of that I unfollowed recently because just about every post is a review or giveaway for products, and that's fine if she wants to do it...but I was tired of reading it. I followed this blog because I liked the person, and it was no longer about the person...if that makes sense. If you can balance the two, I'll stick around, but if it becomes overwhelmingly products shoved. in. my. face, I'm not so much a fan.

    Sorry for the book. :)

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  27. It's not that I mind them, per se, but I've noticed a lot of times when bloggers do them, they sound fake. Like, the whole writing tone is different, probably because they have to mention certain things. And I really hate when blogs do a lot in a short time period or the same subject as 10 other blogs I follow. For example, there was one week recently when literally 8 of my favorite blogs each wrote a sponsored post for Panera, and each quoted the same facts about Panera. It was pretty clear that they were given items to include. I also think it's something where the more you do, the less authentic it is.

    If you're writing about something you really like, it usually comes across.

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